Your ex's wedding pictures

At one time we lived in a much simpler world. You met someone, fell in love, and when it didn't work out you parted ways...never to see each other again. Then came the age of the Internet. MySpace. Facebook. Classmates.com.

With just a click of your mouse you can get up-to-date photos and information on every ex you've ever had. Why would you do that? I have a simple answer... Because you can. Life goes on. You meet someone else, fall deeply in love, and end up glad it didn't work out with the other person. That STILL doesn't change that weird, creepy feeling you get when you're gazing upon the wedding photo of someone you once thought you'd spend the rest of your life with. What is that? It's not that you still care for the person.

But in that very first moment as you look at that person you once loved, you become all too aware that life goes on without you. Yes, that person got over you. That person fell in love again too and YES, that person is probably just as glad as you are that it didn't work out. But...that's not the way it's supposed to happen. This is YOUR show. You're the star of it. When someone steps off your stage, he's supposed to vanish from existence. That was the way it worked in the days before the Internet, after all. People don't GET OVER us. They spend the rest of their lives devastated that the most incredible person they ever met is no longer with them. Right?

Think about it. Back in the 80s the only way your high school sweetheart would know what happened to you after high school graduation was if you somehow became a celebrity. Wrote a best-selling novel, became a movie star or famous musician... That sort of thing. We didn't even have reality TV back then. Unless you both lived in a small town and STAYED there, your ex left your life and simply...vanished. That was probably for the best. But now, thanks to the Internet, anyone can be a star. Okay, maybe not a star, but certainly FINDABLE.

Heck, if you get married your photographer will probably put your photos out there for all the world to see. One day that ex of yours will do a Google search and find himself face to face with YOU...standing next to someone else. And he'll feel like he's looking at something he was never, EVER, supposed to see. Some people (ahem) put their entire lives out there for everyone to look at. Yeah, anyone who wants to find out what's going on in my life needs only to click on over to my MySpace and there it all is. Maybe that's easier.

Just read the blog and follow along. We all assume our exes won't care anymore than we care but you know they have to feel the same way we do about it. She didn't spend the rest of her life mourning me? I'm over her but she was never supposed to get over ME. Wait...the world DOES revolve around each of us, right?