Act like a lady, think like a man

Two shows I like to catch Monday through Friday mornings are:The View (main reason being is that the others gang up on the perky blond quite often, and I love watching her get put in her place for thinking she's a know-it-all)and The Ellen Degeneres Show (one of the funniest women alive)I can't help it, I'm that girlie.Not too long ago, Ellen had comedy king Steve Harvey on as a guest to promote his latest endeavor, the number one selling relationship book in the country at the present time:He was even on Oprah for his second go 'round to continue spreading the simplified code to getting how simplistic men really are when it comes to dating the so-called unreadable gender.

Listening to a few examples of his outlook on how women continue to look at men as a rubix cube endeavor when it really is as plain as day, I took off to my local Borders locale and purchased his well reviewed publishing.Wow.I have already for seen men as basic creatures with little mystery, yet a few actions have always left me confused and in the dark...that is until I read Harvey's relationship 'bible' and finally understood. No longer will I be perplexed at any 'man trouble' that floats my way. No longer will the wool be swept over my eyes and be made a fool out of. I've been keeping well standards for some time now, but after reading, my confidence has grown that much stronger.

For those of my female readers who have yet to expose yourself to his fabulous workings, I am more than happy to share with you what I have learned, and what I have always suspected to be true and gained confirmation of. Take each and every note to heart and follow through at all times. For goodness sakes, an honest, straightforward MAN is exposing the 'mystery' that the penis bearing gender have been riding on scape goat for as long as possible, and he opted to call all of them out so each and every woman out there looking for REAL LOVE can stop wasting her time and TRULY succeed in finding something RIGHT. Read on and enjoy!....

1.)Men are driven by 3 things in Life: a)Who He isb)What He Does c) How Much He MakesIf a man is not fulfilling his goals, managing a beneficial career, knowing in complete certainty that he can be an absolute protector and provider to one special lady, there is absolutely no way he can be ready for real commitment. You may be dating him, but progression in the relationship will not successfully occur as long as he has yet to find his place in the world and be happy where he stands.

2) A Man's Love is NOT like a Woman's LoveWomen will pamper and devote all of the affections they can muster for the love in their life to the point of Lifetime Movie credibility. A man just isn't programmed to express his devotions in the same manner no matter how much you try and beat it out of him. If a man truly loves you, he will do 3 things:a) Profess his Love. You will always be introduced as his lady or on official terms as girlfriend/fiance/wife to any and everyone he comes in contact with to let them all know you are his and he is proud. If you're ever introduced as his "friend" or just by your name, let there be no doubt that to him, that is all you really are.b) Provide for you. Once he's professed his devotion, he will step up to the plate and start bringing home the bacon. Nothing is going to stop the man who loves you with everything that he is to ensure that you are taken care of be it financially, physical, mentally, and emotionally.c) Protect You. A man in love will always travel to the ends of the Earth and back in making damn skippy that you are always out of harms path. No venture is asking too much of a man when it comes to the woman his heart resides with.

3.) Men need three basic actions of us to be happy:a) Supportb) Loyaltyc) the Cookie (i.e. Sex)Withhold any of just one of the three and he WILL without a doubt, seek it from someone else, absolutely.

4.) Men see women in two categories: Sports Fish and Keepers.If you're a woman who doesn't have any rules, requirements, respect for herself, or guidelines, men pick up on your scent a mile away (take for instance the commonly seen barely dressed late night bar/club goers whom are more than happy to go home with any man who pays for drinks and ponies up insincere compliments to get in their pants). To him, you will only be seen as a sports fish and can never be more than an easy target so long as you continue down such a destructive path.If you're a woman who has standards/requirements, commands (not demand) respect, and can easily offer up those three necessary terms that men need to stick around, you fall under the Keeper catergory and a smart, REAL man won't let you go.

5) Men cheat for many reasons, but the five that are most commonly the cause:a) They can. They don't view sex the same way us women do in regards to emotional connection. They can honestly Love a woman with all that he is and still be able to separate that bond by sleeping with another whom he has no honest feeling for. If he is missing something and/or not receiving what he needs from you in the relationship that you share, he will cheat only to feel better about himself and collect resolve in the form of infidelity.b) They think they can get away with itHarvey insists that men consider the risks of getting caught by cheating on his lady. But mostly, they initiate affairs/infidelity pretty confident that they're going to get away with it and that even if they do get caught, their denials will see them through. He shares with the reader that men go to great lengths to hide it from us, always with the thought in mind: If you don't know about it, it can't hurt you.

The most interestring tidbit that he shares with this fact is that when getting caught a man will only lie and deny if he cares about his woman. If he doesn't see her fitting into his life plan, he won't even bother with covering his tracks and chitchat after being found out, he'll just simply offer up guilty admittance.This is a big one that I completely agree with seeing as how it has at one time, personally entered my relationship, and I can not emphasis enough to a woman that the moment your suspicions arise that something isn't right between you and your man becuase you believe he may be cheating, go ahead and pull out the sherlock holmes routine until it's confirmed or you're proven wrong. Use your intuition, almost always, it is right. There isn't any reason for you to feel guilty, embarrassed, or ashamed when it comes to finding out the truth if YOU are being a faithful partner.c) He hasn't become who he wants and needs to be or found who he truly wants. If he's lost in the game of Life and/or hasn't found 'the One' he will continuously play the field until he finds his place in the world and the right woman to be at his side.d)What's happening at home isn't "happening" like it used to.

Sure, it's a tall tale women are told again and again that we want to believe is a falsified excuse men use to just run out on us, but it is in every sense of the word true. Once things become so routine and you have no desire to keep the spark going and pursue working at maintaining a happy, ongoing, satisfying sexual relation alive with your man, he will go and seek it from someone who will hands down give it up.and the biggest reason of all...e) There's always a woman out there willing to cheat with him. Think about it. If every woman in the world said "You're married/in a relationship - I can't go there with you", do you know how little and possibly non existent divorce and/or breakups would suffice?

Sure, every now and then, there ARE women who can be fooled and don't know that a man is already spoken for. But Harvey states that the majority of the time, these women that so easily spread themselves around like Country Crock Butter to any man who gives them the time of day knows that they are sleeping with a taken man and go along with it anyway (serious self esteem issues of course).I could go on and on about the many more wonderful splendors I got out of this literary gem, but it's much better when you can read it for yourself. "He's Just not That Into You" brought women the clarity to stop excusing shitty behavior from men and made devoted followers from most if not all of us. With "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man", Steve Harvey has gone above and beyond to put it all on the table and empower women to stop accepting and settling with unsuitable behavior of men so that we can truly find REAL happiness.

Kudos to the man bearing fearless Cajones!