Revenge is one of the deadliest things on Earth. Few people stop to realize this, and end up shooting themselves in the foot over and over again throughoo you, either directly or indirectly, that you didn't like. So you start scheming, thinking of wut life. The most common and obvious reason is anger. Anger because someone did something tays to get back at them, hurt them or destroy them, be it mentally, verbally, phsyically, or otherwise.

But what people don't realize is that revenge is a useless and futile expense of energy. More often than not, revenge only destroys yourself. Doing harm to others does more harm to you than them. Especially if it is unwarranted. All it really does is cause people who may have had sympathy or understanding for you think of you as petty and immature.

Take my ex's affair, for example. The girl he cheated on me with became an obsession of mine for like a month. I hated her. With every ounce of my being I hated her. I wanted to do all sorts of bad things to her, make her pay for what she did to me. Make her feel the pain that I was feeling. But you know what? I never did. And I was the bigger person for it. Instead of showing people that I was revengeful, no matter how justified, I showed people that I can handle myself with respect and maturity. It wasn't about her.

It was about me, taking everything I had, the strength of 1,000 armies and taking all that pain and aggression and anger and churning it out into writing, poetry, living breathing words flickering across the screen. Pain became art, beautiful pieces of art that became the center piece for my blogging, which now has turned into a different vein. (FTR my entire belief system is different now, and because of her, I am able to see things a lot more clearly, and my life is better for it. If I ever run into her, now my plan is to actually thank her. )

But either way, rather than lose the respect of those around me, I gained even more people's respect by taking something broken and making it beautiful. As for others, well I wish I could say the same for them. I sit back and watch people every day, good people, completely ruin themselves with bitterness, jealousy, anger and revenge. Spiteful feelings are like poison to a person's brain and aura. Take a person who has a lot going for them and add some bitterness, jealousy and spitefulness to them and they will always self-destruct. ALWAYS. If more people would focus on their own shit rather than spending all of their time and energy trying to get revenge on others the world would have a lot more successes in it rather than failures.If you don't like the way things are going, change them.

But change YOUR part. Stop trying to bring others down for your own personal gain. Because at some point or another, when everyone else has left the building, the only person left to carry the blame will be YOU.