Inrelationships, learning to let go has never been hard for me. I have a hardertime learning to hold on to people. I’ve been told I give up too easily but I’vejust never seen a point in trying to hang onto something that obviously wasn’tmeant to be. If you don’t want to be in my life then don’t be, has always beenmy line of thinking. ....
I thinkthe secret to learning to let go is to accept that you cannot make someone wantto be with you if they don’t want to be. Turning into a jealous, clingy shrewwill not bring anyone closer to you, neither will crying or begging. Whensomeone makes it clear that they don’t want you or need you in their life youshould move on. ...
The onlything the person you are holding onto wants from you is for you to shut up andgo away. The best thing you should do at that point is what they want. You needto face the fact that they won’t be rocking in the porch swing with you when they are 70. ....
It allboils down to perception. If you could see the way you look when you arechasing someone who just wishes you would let go, then you would stop. I havenever wanted to be that person clinging while the whole world watches andlaughs. I would rather just let go and find someone who does want me in theirlife. ....
I have seen people cling for years inrelationships because they felt that the person they loved was "the one" whenit was crystal clear to anyone looking in that it just wasn’t ever going to beright. Some of these people (all girls except for a few) overlooked cheating,abuse, lying and, in one case, the impregnation of another girl as evidence that the one they loved did not, infact, love them back. They thought ifthey just stuck around that the one they loved would one day wake up and seethem standing there, still willing to love them no matter what. ....
I havenever been able to love that much and some people (mostly the clingy people)think that it makes me cold. I just think I am protecting my heart, because inspite of my exterior toughness it is a fragile thing and already missing quitea few pieces.
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