What women want.....
Most men who ask for a kiss will be denied. It may not be an auditory no; it may be an eye roll and a smile, a quick laugh, a change of subject, a slight teasing push, or a quick peck. She's not going to be rude about it, but please don't ask.If you want something from her, you're going to have to take it. She won't surrender unless you make her. Respect, you need to give it AND command it; balance taking her with respecting her. It requires instinct, a visceral knowing that reads her in ways that can't be learned or taught.If you want the kiss, let go of all you're thinking and live inside your skin. Feel her without touching her. Your body KNOWS. Listen to it. Whatever you do, don't ask. Here's a tip, if you can't feel it, it's not there and no amount of wishing it were is going to make it so. If your instinct is telling you to lean in, then do it. Be a man.


~FAST FORWARD ~


You walk in the door; she meets you with a smile. You hand her a bottle of wine. She thanks you and takes it into the kitchen, puts it on ice. You follow her in. She has laughter in her eyes and smells like citrus. She brushes past you, lifts her eyes to yours and smiles as she slides between you and the center island. You're inches away from her but you can feel her. It's all you can do not to reach out and pull her to you.So why don't you? JUST DO IT. Grab her wrist and pull her back. If she doesn't resist, you're good to go. This isn't rocket science. Read her, damn it. Stop thinking and feel her. She's not going to give you the obvious permission you want. She's drawn to strength and confidence. You either have it or you don't. She's waiting to find out.She slips by again, holding a warm dish of something.

You take it right out of her hands, set it down, and pull her to you. This is when you ask, but there are no words required.Your thumb circles the inside of her wrist. You reach up and push her hair back. Your other thumb traces her jaw line. If there's vulnerability, you'll see it now. She lifts her eyes and you see it, step in, stop with your lips a breath away from hers, then kiss her lower lip. She opens and melts into you.And this is how you speak, with your hands softly tugging at her hair, with your tongue tasting hers. Now let her go. Not too quick. She's melted and needs a second or two to be solid again. Look her in the eyes and smile. Brush your thumb against her cheek again. Step back. Pick up the warm dish you took out of her hand scant seconds ago and ask, "Should I put this on the table?" You've stepped into her. You're behind her defenses. Be careful. Don't play with her. Eat a little. Talk to her. Drink some wine. Listen to music. When the dishes are cleared, sit down on the couch and pull her toward you. Kiss her again. Then make yourself do it.

Make yourself get up and say goodbye with a kiss that's a promise. When you're on the other side of the door, turn and rest your forehead against it. She's on the other side. If not for the door, her head would be on your chest.Don't race past the wanting. Savor it. Let it build. Make it last. It'll never be like this again. This is a discovery, a gradual knowing. Nothing feels as good as wanting. Forget about instant gratification. Dream about touching her. Let her dream about you. Let her wake up warm and wet because in her dream you were touching her, tasting her, moving inside of her, and she wants you. Feel her surrender a bit more every time you're with her. When you can't stand it anymore - when she can't - she'll do what she never does, she'll ask. And when she pulls her lips back from yours and says please, make her tell you what she wants. Please what?