Crushes

It all started in sixth grade.There was a boy in my class named Steven I had a crush on. It was my first crush ever. So, of course, being the big-mouth I am, I told my best friend Lisa, who told Lukas... Within a day or so, that boy knew I liked him.Nothing happened.

The pattern repeated in seventh grade, eighth grade, ninth grade... I'd pick out a boy, for whatever reason, and develop a crush. Inevitably, someone around me would find out and she'd tell someone who'd tell someone. It would get back to the boy, who would never speak to me again. You'd think, at some point, I would have figured out my little system wasn't working.Oh, it gets worse. Sometimes I'd DELIBERATELY have someone tell him I liked him. "Do you want me to see if he likes you?" one of my friends would ask. I'd protest at first but eventually, give in. Why did I do this? I have no idea. I think in my adolescent mind, I hated admiring someone from afar. I wanted him to KNOW I existed and once he knew, he'd HAVE to like me. Right?Yeah, right. That's why it never worked.

My other friends didn't do things this way. If they liked a boy, they'd never, EVER want him to know. They'd tell very few people and just admire him quietly. This got them absolutely nowhere. Hey, at least I took a chance.Of course, as you get older, you learn the best way to win a guy you're interested in is to...well...actually TALK to him. Maybe walk up and introduce yourself. Make sure you're in the same place he is at a certain time and "accidentally" bump into him. You could play hard-to-get and just hope he tries to chase. Is it just me, or did anyone else notice that never worked? You were running but he wasn't chasing. Kinda reminds me of the time a friend of mine got mad that some guy she'd gone out with hadn't called. "Well, I'm not speaking to him anymore."Yeah. That'll show him.

Guess what? He's not chasing. So all your running is doing nothing but making you TIRED.The question still remains, what is the best way to get your crush to take notice? Does telling Suzy to tell Bobby to tell Mark to tell him EVER work? Or is it best to just walk right up and introduce yourself?