YOU'RE HIS BACKUP GIRLWe've all been there. Crazy about some guy who isn't quite into you. Yet still he keeps you around, contacting you occasionally but never going to the next step. He must be at least a little interested. Otherwise why would he keep calling?I'm going to clue you in on a fact you may not want to face, so brace yourself. The man you've been waiting around for, wasting months of your life on, the man you've made a priority, is only keeping you around as an option. You aren't his first choice.

If you were, you'd be with him all the time. You would know how he feels about you because, guess what? He would know. At the moment he doesn't.
Women do it too. I've had friends I've personally witnessed doing this sort of thing. We'll keep a guy around as our backup, taking his phone calls and hanging out with him -- knowing he's crazy about us but all the while knowing we'll never feel the same.So why do we do it? Is it that we need the ego boost? Are we that afraid of being alone? Or maybe a part of us feels that if we'll only hold on a little while longer, our feelings will change.

Meanwhile, someone has put his life on hold. Maybe he doesn't intend to, but as long as there's hope for the two of you, he can't fully move on.It's so easy to recognize when we're someone's backup. Yet we allow people to do this to us...why? Maybe, in a sense, we too are holding on out of fear of being alone. It's far easier to hang onto something familiar than to get out there and face the unknown. We know we deserve better but it's just not easy to let go. But deep down we know that if we walked away, he wouldn't stop us.

Don't you want someone who would stop you?When you are someone's priority, you never doubt it. He doesn't just call you when he's feeling horny and lonely. You never have to ask him where you stand -- you always know. If you're honest with yourself, you'll admit you'd be the same way. Aren't you a whole lot more attentive to a guy you're a crazy about? Wouldn't you prefer a man who feels that way about you?Go get him. He's out there waiting...