NYMPHO? OR NORMAL?"I once dated this nympho...""Wait a second," I interrupted the male friend who was telling me this story. "Exactly what made her a nympho?""She wanted it ALL THE TIME. It was exhausting. And she was always running around naked, which I thought would be a good thing, but it's like that episode of Seinfeld.

There's good naked and bad naked, believe me."I frowned. "Okay, when you say she wanted it 'all the time,' just how often are we talking? Every hour on the hour? Ten times a day?"Now he frowned. "Well...no...maybe once a day, sometimes every couple of days, but it was too much for me."AHHHH. We'd gotten exactly where I expected we'd be. "So because she wanted it more often than you did, she was a nympho?"My friend stammered all around that one but basically, I'd hit the nail on the head. One man's nympho is another man's prude. Okay, maybe not that extreme, but you get my point. It's all relative to how often HE wants sex. If she wants it too much or too little, there's a problem.

I think we all grew up assuming all men wanted sex, all the time. Maybe as teenagers, that was true...but as you get older, you'll find men aren't quite so predictable in their sex drives. In fact, you might be surprised to hear...brace yourself...not all men have the exact same sex drive.I know. Surprising, isn't it?

I don't know where this belief came from that any man who isn't a complete horn dog is "not normal" but everyone is different. And this perception that a woman is supposed to be less sexually charged than the man she is with is a myth as well. Yet, how many times have you heard a female friend, going through a break up, all too willing to tell the entire world about her "gay" ex? He had to be gay, after all, because he hardly ever wanted to have sex. That's just not...NORMAL.It's pretty simple. If he wants sex measurably more than you do, he's a sex fiend. If he wants it quite a bit less, he's repressed. Or gay. Same with women. Only when WOMEN want sex too much, they are labeled nymphomaniacs. Too little? A prude.

Either way, it all boils down to one major problem...a problem that has the power to take down your relationship. You are, very simply, sexually incompatible.Obvious? Well...yeah. So why is it that people can't seem to tolerate these differences in each other? Why do people feel the need to justify their own sex drives?That's what it all boils down to. If she wanted it significantly more or less than you, in order to appear NORMAL, you have to say something was wrong with her. You can't admit that maybe you just didn't have what it took to satisfy her and she needed someone with a stronger sex drive. Or maybe sex just wasn't all that important to her.

Or maybe, just maybe, she would have wanted to have sex...but somehow she knew things just weren't right between you.No, your ex wasn't gay, prudish, perverted, or a sex maniac. Your ex was simply not compatible with you in bed. There's nothing wrong with that. Now, cut the strings. Let go. And accept the fact that men and women don't quite fit into the sexual stereotypes society has cut out for us.